First of all, let’s start with the answer: NO!
A man who dates a transwoman is not gay, and does not suddenly become gay because he dated a transwoman. Just as a man who dates a cis woman is not suddenly heterosexual and straight, and does not suddenly turn straight because he dated a woman.
The terms that need to be used for this post are “bisexual” or “straight”, but never “gay” or “lesbian”. If the word “gay” were used in the aforementioned post, the story would be written from an unintentionally homophobic lens.
Having feelings for a transwoman is as normal as you having feelings for a cisgender woman. The person you have feelings for is just that, regardless of their genitalia. The person you have feelings for is just that, regardless of their gender.
When you are attracted to someone it has nothing to do with the fact if they are transgendered or not. If you happen to be in love with a transwoman at one point in your life, it means that this particular individual happened to be the right one for you at the right time, regardless of them being transgendered or not.
Of course, it won’t be easy or ordinary to date a transwoman, but please do it.
If you happen to be in love with a transwoman, please know that you are not a homophobe and that you have nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to dating a transwoman.
As for the question “why is being in love with a transwoman not gay?”, well let me tell you why:
If a man is in love with a transact woman, then he has no reason to call himself gay because he isn’t attracted to men!
I hope that this made you very clear about what means to date a TransGirl and that for now own you go on and find your love as soon as possible!!